(As published in the Spiritual Niagara newsletter, February 2017)
The Final Column
~Be Fearlessly Authentic~
By Christine Whelan
(Conversation between my dad and I when I was young.)
Me: “Dad, you are so eccentric!”
Dad: “No Chris, eccentric people have lots of money. I don’t have lots of money. I’m just weird.”
We both smile knowingly.
I feel so blessed to have been raised by a man who valued uniqueness. This is what he meant by “weird”; unique. And he was quite unique, and quite proud of it. So I was raised to dress based on my emotional state of the day, not by following the trends of the day. I was raised to make my own decisions about my future, not based on what society expects me to be doing, but based on how my emotions react to each situation and decision. So now in these days, I feel very capable of making my own decisions as a lightworker, not based on what the current local trends and groups say we should be doing, without feeling like an outsider. I am me. I am true to me. I am weird. I am authentic. I role model authenticity. I remind people of their own authenticity. I know this to be true, because I am not really accepted by the masses. And that’s ok.
I have no intentions to be.
In Dad’s Will, there was a little note. It said, “I would like put on my gravestone, I was so misunderstood.” Dad was a lightworker before his time. In our family, he was considered the black sheep. Not necessarily outwardly by family members, but by himself, and again, proud of it, but also tormented by it at times.
What is Authenticity?
Authenticity requires vulnerability, transparency and integrity. It is freedom from the illusion of fear and alignment to the reality of love; a matching of outer expression with inner experience; the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are.
To me, a lightworker’s final intention is authenticity. It is what arrives at the end of the journey to “practicing lightworker”.
It is also my belief that there are no shortcuts. We need to do our own healing. Yep, we need to dig into our emotional trenches and feel the pain. Only then can our new, adjusted beliefs align with the shift of living authentically. Intuition needs to be tuned and trusted so that we can make our own decisions based on what is right for who and what we have, as souls, chosen to be in this lifetime. It will not align with the masses but it will most definitely align with our purpose here, in this lifetime.
Our intuition doesn’t really work completely until we do our healing and can be authentic. Here is why I think this. Until we go back to where we left ourselves – explore our childhoods – we can have over-active needs (needs that were not met in childhood can become over-active in adulthood and be in control) and can create distortions in our intuitive messages. These over-active needs can also maintain a belief system of illusions that run in automatic play, in stealth mode. Intuition becomes ego-based without us knowing. Examples of overactive needs are: the need to belong, the need to be accepted, the need to be approved of, the need to avoid rejection and the need to be the same as others. Remember highschool? These needs can overpower discernment (discernment in this context – thinking clearly and independently).
A couple of reasons why it’s important to achieve authenticity:
As lightworkers, we live as role models for others. We cannot play the “do as I say, not as I do” game. This is insulting to newly-awakening lightworkers and will only confuse them and ultimately send them on a different path. Others will learn how to be true to themselves by watching us live life being true to ourselves.
If not living authentically and therefore utilizing fully our intuitions and independent thinking, in our travels to enlightenment and purpose, we can run the risk of being manipulated into being a part of (and often paying far too much money for) services, events and situations that do not fit into our authenticity and even feed others’ ego-based intentions. Our emotions can then keep us safe, like a built in smoke alarm. If something doesn’t feel right, even though it appears good, we can make decisions based on our own needs and not what others say to us. And we will be ok with the resulting lack of acceptance, approval and sense of belonging.
Balance of community and authenticity
Don’t get me wrong here. I do believe that a part of being a lightworker is about connections, energy exchange and belonging. All I’m saying is, once we achieve authenticity, we can use discernment to filter what feels right from what doesn’t, to make our own decisions on who we allow into our lives and who we don’t, understanding that we are not required to give any explanation. The people who are good for us are those who leave us feeling awesome; those who allow us to feel and think what we are feeling and thinking, who never give us advice or tell us what we “should” or “shouldn’t” do to travel our paths. We don’t need that. We already know. We need to feel free to express ourselves and our discernment without the fear of being rejected or treated with disrespect.
So, my beautiful and authentic lightworker friend, I encourage you to take that risk of criticism and disapproval, even being disliked and gossiped about. It is your responsibility to yourself. It is your right. Dad’s experience of being “so misunderstood” caused him such suffering and grief. However he stuck to it, living life the way he chose. I grew up watching him stick to it, and so as a fabulous result, I see myself being misunderstood as an honour and an indicator I am living my life authentically.
My wish for you is that you love yourself in balance with loving others. And that, my friend, sometimes means you will need to get your freak on and drench your fine self in authenticity!!
With light and love,